This whole story break about Tiger Woods and his adultery has really been on my heart of late.  Sexual sin is alive and well but to be “outed” publicly to the extent that he has would have to be pretty painful.  It is bad enough to have to deal with infidelity in any marriage but to have the media frenzy and the speculation on top of it, I can’t even imagine. 

Of course then you add the “band wagon” women looking for their day in the lime light or looking for a little hand out of money.  The price of fame just got higher. 

I think the reason this has struck me so hard is because every week another woman comes to my office and says she is either having an affair or has just ended one. They are then faced with restoring, repairing their marriage or dealing with the devastation of divorce.  They are overwhelmed with the shame and guilt of their choices, actions and the consequences.  And my heart hurts for them and the trail of pain.

For every cheating man their is a woman either married or not that is believing a lie.  They have believed a lie that their value is in their looks and what they can do and get with their bodies.  They have believed that if they want to get to the proverbial top they have to lay down to get it.  Thank you media, thank you satan for taking out our women and families. 

You know when it comes to women this topic is really not okay.  It is on some level okay for men to be sexually promiscuous, we on some level expect it.  I mean “boys will be boys” right?  But when women are promiscuous we have a whole list of names and judgments.  So I want to remind us all that there is nothing new under the sun and this is what Jesus has to say on the topic of female promiscuity John 8:7…"If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her." (NIV)

I am overwhelmed some days of how satan is taking out women, marriages, generations with sexual sin.  In my studies of addiction, food and sex are the worst addictions to deal with.  They are natural God-given needs. Unlike alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, etc. your body actually requires food and sex.  As I tell the food addicts I work with “the hardest thing about food addiction is you have to take the tiger out of the cage three times a day and walk him around the block”.  Sexual addiction is similar as it is a natural part of our bodies.  God designed us to be sexual beings for procreation and for pleasure but when that gets tainted with our perversion then life gets distorted and difficult. 

To get a better understanding of sexual addiction in women I have been reading No Stones: Women Redeemed From Sexual Shame by Marnie Feree.  She really brought me out of my fog of what has so gradually been done to women and men through the media. 

“Today’s culture portrays sexuality as a woman’s ticket to obtaining almost anything she wants. Advertisers use sex to sell everything from soap to coffee to automobiles.  The media trains women to use their bodies to manipulate, influence, or control.  Females learn to use seduction to get attention or to avoid responsibility.  To be beautiful and sexy is to have power.” 

Little girls are taught to be sexual in dance class shaking their tops and rears and as we applaud them for being “cute”.  Then we let our tweeners wear clothing that shows off their body, letting them look like adults, wearing  fake nails, tans, etc.  By the time a  young woman hits high school she has been inundated with it is all about the package, the contents are secondary to the outward appearance.  Then we wonder why suicide is the number one killer of our youth and why eating disorders continue to rise.   No one can live up to the image they see on TV. In case you haven’t seen the Dove commercial out takes, it is a lie. 

Whether you have ever seen porn or not it has taken over our culture.  It has portrayed this false woman and has put women in a place to try to “look perfect”.  You can have a sculpted body, sculpted nails, hair extensions, fake tan, etc.  Just ask Michael Jackson you can completely change every aspect of your body including the color of your skin. 

The porn industry has slowly infiltrated every media outlet.  Now you have couples judging their relationship and their sex life.  As you watch these women on the screen no matter how stressed, tired, etc. they are always eager for sex.  The people on TV are constantly seeking this great romance and the “Big Love”.  Is this realistic?  Does this not just set up false expectations of what the real world looks like?  And then we wonder why the divorce rate is 53% as all this TV numb society measures real life against scripts written for profits. 

My heart breaks for the situation going on in Tiger Wood’s life but the truth is it is going on in society at large.  Families are being taken down because once again  we are like the frog in the pot.  You cook a frog by potting him in a pot of cold water and then heating the water.  He doesn’t know he is cooked until it is too late. 

America, we are cooked.  We have taught our little girls they are nothing more than sex objects.  We have banked our whole lives on what we look like on the outside which encompasses everything from beauty to clothes, cars and homes we can’t afford.  We are dying by our own gluttony.  We are coming to the end of ourselves, wanting all we can get out of sex, money, food, etc. 

Wake up, wake up to what is happening to us, wake up to your personal numbness, wake up to who you are in Christ and the plan He has for you. 

Blessings ~ Tammy

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