I usually am reading 4 or 5 books simultaneously I guess that answers why it takes me so long to finish one. Anyway I have been reading Emotional Bullshit by Carl Alasko, Ph.D. (yes that is really the title) for the past couple weeks. Great book, get past the title. So I got to his three questions that I will share with you. I don’t want to lose any of its flavor by paraphrasing I am going to copy it verbatim…..
“Every time you experience some level of anxiety, anger, pain or fear, or you’re facing a decision (even a minor one), or you’re involved in a conflict (even a minor one), take a few seconds to ask yourself the following three questions. You may find your answer immediately after asking Question One, and not have to proceed to the next two. The first question can be such a profound inquiry that the solution to your difficulty can instantly appear. And your behavior can instantly change.
- Am I denying an essential fact or responsibility?
- Am I creating a delusional reality to support the denial?
- Am I deflecting my responsibility by blaming someone or something else?”
These are the questions you ask yourself before you go cope. The coping that most of us do….compulsive eating, controlling, drinking, smoking, raging, fill in your blank is because we are not dealing with the answer to one of these three questions. When I start to understand what is really going on then change can take place.
I have found that dealing with things from my past through the Genesis Process frees me up to get new activations in that particular area. Freedom, peace, that is what we are all looking for!
